You’ve done the journaling. Tried the habits. Bought the books. But when self-help doesn’t help, it’s easy to blame yourself. What if the problem isn’t you — but the way we’ve been told to fix ourselves? This piece explores why some self-help advice backfires, and what actually makes a difference when you’re trying to feel better.

The boundaries blurred so slowly you barely noticed. One day, work and life were separate. Now they overlap — emails at dinner, meetings from your bedroom, always just one more thing to do. What did we lose when the structure disappeared? And how do we begin to rebuild it?

Another article about doing less and getting more? You’ve heard that before, right? Stay with me — because you’re still making a list each day (even if only in your head), and you’re still disappointed with how few things get a tick. The old ways are stubborn.

Let me distil a mountain of wisdom — books, podcasts, research, conversations — into just 500ish words. All grounded. All actionable. And all designed to help you shift something today.

We talk a lot about balance — but what if that’s not what we really need? Humans are rhythmic creatures. We focus in waves, build momentum, fall out of sync, and find it again. This article explores why rhythm, not balance, might be the missing piece in how we work, and how small shifts can help you (and your team) work in a way that actually works.